Books : Children Are from Heaven: Positive Parenting Skills for Raising Cooperative, Confident, and Compassionate Children
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Binding: Paperback
Dewey Decimal Number: 649.1
EAN: 9780060930998
ISBN: 0060930993
Label: Harper Paperbacks
Manufacturer: Harper Paperbacks
Number Of Items: 1
Number Of Pages: 400
Publication Date: January 01, 2001
Publisher: Harper Paperbacks
Release Date: December 26, 2000
Sales Rank: 173615
Studio: Harper Paperbacks
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This brilliantly original and practical system for parenting children is the brainchild of John Gray, whose Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus books and seminars have helped millions of adults communicate more effectively and lovingly with each other. Based on this idea that children respond better to positive rather than negative reinforcement, the Children Are from Heaven program concentrates on rewarding, not punishing, children and fostering their innate desire to please their parents.
Central to this approach are the five positive messages your children need to learn again and again:
It's okay to be different.
It's okay to make mistakes.
It's okay to express negative emotions.
It's okay to want more.
It's okay to say no, but remember Mom and Dad are the bosses.
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Psychologist John Gray (he of Men Are from Mars... fame) cites a need to shift from "fear-based parenting" (a punitive and oppressive approach to child rearing) to "love-based parenting" (which accepts children's desires and negative emotions while still setting reasonable limits). With child and teen violence increasing, rampant low self-esteem, substance abuse, teen pregnancy, and attention deficit disorder, he says, "the Western free world is experiencing a crisis in parenting. Almost all parents today are questioning both the old and the new ways of parenting. Nothing seems to be working."
He suggests "Five Messages of Positive Parenting" that will facilitate such a shift: - It's okay to be different.
- It's okay to make mistakes.
- It's okay to express negative emotions.
- It's okay to want more.
- It's okay to say no, but remember mom and dad are the bosses.
Although his parenting philosophy is not necessarily revolutionary (think "positive discipline"), Gray manages to keep this parenting primer contemporary by weaving in specific challenges of new-millennium families--such as our tendency to be consumer-driven and overscheduled. "When parents learn what their children really need, they are less motivated to create money to acquire things and more motivated to create time to enjoy their family," Gray writes. "The greatest wealth for a parent today is time." --Gail Hudson
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This book has helped us in wonderous ways! Parenting is a huge learning experience. I was brought up with a little fear based parenting. I wanted to change that with my children. This book is an easy read and gives great examples of childrens temperments and how to implement positive parenting skills. I have read the book over and over again. I recommend reading this book every 6 months to a year to keep up with your ever changing child. This world would be a very happy place, if everyone read this book and implemented these positive parenting skills!
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This book is a must read for all parents, grandparents, and any child care providers. This book had many positive skills that I was able to implement easily and effectively. I was amazed by all of the "right" things I was already doing and now I have many new ideas and skills I can hone to help me be a better parent.
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This author strikes to the core of positive parenting. Parents and grandparents, and anyone who works with children, should read it several times and use it as a reference.
I gave a copy to each of my adult children , all of whom are parents, and I have read it twice.
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I agree with some of the other reviews that the book was a little repetitve, but I did not mind. I have a 8, 4, & 2 yr old. They are all so different in what they need and what motivates them. This book really helped me to realize what each of them really needed to feel happy and loved. I never realized how much my oldest was NEEDING more affirmation and one on one time. He has always been the big helper and the one I could count on to help him self. In the book Dr. Gray talks about the age of when a child should still be, and feel like he is completely taken care of, and I was suprised. I may have been asking way too much of him. My son was exhibiting signs of ADHD and was eventually diagnosed. Implementing these positive messages I have been able to take him off of medication and I have such a wonderful relationship with him now that I feel will continue through out his teen years. This book reviews common, well intentioned lectures and plans that some of us parents come up with and what they may be doing- (the opposite of what you intented them for) I was most certainly guilty of it. The plans seem to really open up the kids and bring out an extra ounce of joy to their smile.
Obviously, I recommend it. Especially if your children may seem frustrated, distracted, and you think you have done everything the right way- read this book and give it another try. I hope that it will bring you this much peace. God bless.
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This book is a nice stepping stone for understanding. His explanations are so broad! Mabey thats his intent though.
I feel that Kolbe Concept or Keirsey Temperament sorter are better sources to understanding your children. Having actual personality assesments done would be more accurate.
Confucius stated; "The strength of a nation derives from the integrity of the home" So ANY book about kinder/wiser parenting is good.
Good book to get you started at better parenting.
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